I’m having a day when I love all the parts of me society says I shouldn’t. I love my hairy shins. I love my thick, wobbly thunder thighs. I love the cellulite in my ass. I love the sagging of my breasts. I love my large, pronounced tummy. I love my poorly dyed hair. I love my zits. I love everything about me.
I enter a lot of threads like this one below with questions than many of the regular readers of each Blog reject. Each time I have the same questions about the difference in how fat men and fat women are dealt with in fat acceptance.
Even though these Blogs refuse not to disagree with me, they can never answer my questions and time after time they wander away from the discussion.
If Fat Acceptance is ever going to be more than the extension of the Fat Admiration/Fetish Communities, it has to have some accountability about fairness toward gender and other issues.
One day I will get some answer to threads like this on:
Anonymous: That post you reblogged makes me depressed. It seems men aren't allowed posts about body positivity. I just...*sigh* nevermind.
I’m sorry that’s your response to a post pointing out the HUGE differences in beauty culture/cultural narratives about men and women’s bodies and that sexism exists.
Of course men are allowed to post about and engage in body positivity (something I’ve said again and again on this blog). The issue is when people- like some of the commentators on that post- pretend that men and women’s bodies are talked about in the same way or that men experience equal expectations and narratives about their bodies to what women experience. That’s simply not true, and erases the existence of sexism.
Men can and should practice body positivity. They just need to acknowledge male privilege and sexism- which is really all that post was doing- while they do it (because men should do that always).
What is wrong is that when men question the narrow stereotype that Body/Fat Acceptance places them in they are met with vicious aggression.
There is no room for male input pass the stereotype they have been assigned.
This Author just talked about a Betabrand’s hateful Santa Claus Ad and she did it without emasculating fat men like Virgie Tovar did.